Validating steam files stuck on 100 Hot adult chatrooms
You’ll readily accept his offer of his friendship because you don’t want to let go either and you keep reminding yourself how he’s so nice, what great qualities he has, and how ‘connected’ you are, and how he’s so like your soulmate except for the small problem of him being emotionally unavailable and unable to commit.
We’re often scared (even if nothing has actually happened yet with a particular person) that we may be letting our last chance or even best chance saloon slip away.He secured enough of an ego stroke through your agreement that he sees no further use for you. You know when he badgers you to understand things from his perspective or for your forgiveness, only for him to go off and mistreat you again?It’s because he’s gained what he wants – forgiveness – so the slate’s been wiped clean.In his mind, you’re either going to be together on his terms or apart on his terms. From pushing the ‘Friend Card’, to poking around in your life, to chasing you for contact, attention, and even sex, he’s devised a number of means to attempt to maintain control even when the relationship is over.
He can’t commit – whether it’s to being with you or leaving you the hell alone – so he’s ensuring that you’re an option should he change his mind or have a use for you, while feeding his ego with the security of what he perceives as your affections for him.
It’s because, in you saying YES he’s secured enough of an ego stroke that he only sees the need to get in touch with you to check that it still stands.